this is the best book, i’m so glad i bought it on an impulse and found an excuse to start reading it the last time i traveled… what can i say? susan jane gilman writes stuff that makes you laugh the big belly style laugh, a few things that make you think, and she even manages to cause a little weeping… my favorite parts have been early grade school (perfectionism and people pleasing to try to make friends), the first job (oh joy for the eerie account of working with coffee), and the chapter on lesbians (she has a really nice discussion on coming out and being who you are). everyone should read this book- i love it!